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Hayaa' (Hadith No. 1352)


Bismillah.
Volume 2, Book 26, Number 652:
Narrated Jabir bin 'Abdullah (radiallaahu `anhu):
When the Ka'ba was built, the Prophet (sallallaahu `alayhi wasallam) and Abbas (radiallaahu `anhu) went to bring stones (for its construction). Al Abbas (radiallaahu `anhu) said to the Prophet (sallallaahu `alayhi wasallam), "Take off your waist sheet and put it on your neck." (When the Prophet (sallallaahu `alayhi wasallam) took it off) he fell on the ground with his eyes open towards the sky and said, "Give me my waist sheet." And he covered himself with it.
It's sort of funny, and cute. Prophet (sallallaahu `alayhi wasallam) was so modest and shy, SubhanAllah! Women even have so much to learn from him!

Taken from: http://ilookilisten.wordpress.com/2013/02/05/hayaa-hadith-no-1352/

Hajj - Simplicity (Hadith No. 1292)


Bismillah.
Volume 2, Book 26, Number 592:
Narrated Thumama bin 'Abdullah bin Anas:
Anas (radiallaahu `anhu) performed the Hajj on a pack-saddle and he was not a miser. Anas (radiallaahu `anhu) said, "Allah's Apostle (sallallaahu `alayhi wasallam) performed Hajj on a pack-saddle and the same Mount was carrying his baggage too."
Among the purposes of Hajj, as outlined by Shaykh Yahya ibn Ibraheem, is:
It trains him to be content with modest clothing and accommodation, when he wears two pieces of cloth and it is sufficient for him, and his accommodation gives him just enough room to sleep.
Seeking comfort isn't wrong, but traveling in simplicity and modesty isn't bad either. It's a training for the body and soul because of the hardships that come with it. And it's a Sunnah as well - Prophet (sallallaahu `alayhi wasallam) had one camel which carried him and his baggage for the whole journey (multiple nights and days of traveling - not a joke!).
Simplicity is cool. B)

Taken from: http://ilookilisten.wordpress.com/2013/01/07/hajj-simplicity-hadith-no-1292/

Liberal events and Islamic Celebration


It is a common observation that all the contemporary events like New year nights and valentine days are targeting the moral values ,cultural roots and established norms of Muslim societies.Muslim societies are based on modesty,dignity and Hijab.

These events bring with them free mixing ,drinking ,dancing ,noise and barbaric liberty and many Muslims totally forget message of Quran and sunnah during these events .

It is proved from hadith of Rasool salal laho aliehi wasalam that who copies a nation is one of them.We have our own festivals and events like Eid ul Fatar ,Eid ul Azha,Ramadan and Hajj.We need to focus on them and should void copying other nations

Merits of Hayaa/Modesty

There are many merits of Hayaa if one wants to know. Here are some just to list a few.

Allaah loves Hayaa. We know this by the following hadeeth:
"Surely Allaah (is One who) has hayaa and is the Protector. He loves hayaa and people who cover each others faults." [Bukhaaree]

Hayaa itself is a Greatness of Islaam as our Prophet (sal-Allaahu 'alayhe wa sallam) indicated:
"Every way of life has a innate character. The character of Islaam is hayaa." Or "Every deen has an innate character. The character of Islaam is modesty (hayaa)." [Abu Daawood]

Hayaa only brings good and nothing else. Our Prophet (sal-Allaahu 'alayhe wa sallam) said:
"Hayaa does not bring anything except good." [Bukhaaree]

Hayaa is a very clear indication of our eeman. As the Prophet (sal-Allaahu 'alayhe wa sallam) had mentioned to the Ansar who was condemning is brother about being shy:
"Leave him, for Hayaa is (a part) of Faith." [Bukhaaree]

Last but not least, Hayaa leads us to PARADISE. As the Prophet (sal-Allaahu 'alayhe wa sallam) told us:
"Hayaa comes from eeman; eeman leads to Paradise. Obscenity comes from antipathy; and antipathy leads to the fire." [Bukhaaree]

The actual word Hayaa is derived from Hayaat. This means life. It is only obvious that when someone has Hayaa in them, they will LIVE a life of Islaam. On the other hand if they do not have Hayaa they are living a life that is Dead "Islaamically" but alive according to this dunya.

The Prophet (sal-Allaahu 'alayhe wa sallam) said:

"Hayaa and Trustworthiness will be the first to go from this world; therefore keep asking Allaah for them." [Bayhaaqee]

In conclusion to this essay we must understand that Hayaa is important for both men and women. Men are to control themselves by getting married as young as possible or if they cannot afford that they should fast.

Women are told to conceal themselves so that the men will not be over taken by the whispers of shaitaan and will not disrespect or take advantage of the women. There are many verses in the Qur'aan that have clearly explained how we have to behave and Allaah is All-Knowing therefore He knew that we would face these problems living in this society, and that is no excuse to change Islaam and only practice what we feel is right. Allaah has told men how to guide their modesty and has told women how to guide their modesty. If either one of them refuse to follow the commandment of their Lord, may Allaah have mercy on them and may He guide them to the straight path.

"Say to the believing men that they should lower their gaze and guard their modesty: that will make for greater purity for them: and Allaah is well acquainted with all that they do. And say to the believing women that they should lower their gaze and guard their modesty; that they should not display their beauty and ornaments except what (must ordinarily) appear thereof; that they should draw their veils over their bosoms and not display their beauty..." [Soorah an-Noor (24):30-31]

Embracing Modesty

A sister who recently started covering herself in the proper Islamic way wrote this article about her experience:

Change is hard, it seems impossible at times because it often challenges a seemingly impossible rigidness. Does that mean we should never try? Or should we take our chances? I took mine and I am glad I did!

God has been kind and life has been good. I have never experienced the hardships that people have in the search for one true meaning of life because it lied in front of me from the very beginning. Then why was I never able to see it or define it? That’s because I never lived it! I never considered myself a reverent or a true celebrant of piousness but I questioned: if I am calling you, why aren’t you answering? If you know what will bring me closer to you, why aren’t you being generous? If I am trying, why isn’t it enough? Because it was never enough!

All my life I have unknowingly practiced materialism. I have judged myself from the eyes of this world and trust me I have never lived up to its expectations. Trying was never good enough and achievements only carved ways to achieve more and more. With my religious values in front of me and my true conviction in God, every time this trying became a drag on me, I turned to Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala for help, and Alhamdulillah never got disappointed. Unfortunately every time He helped, it increased my resiliency towards living a life that we live at the expense of that life which we will continue to live. So I remained divided and confused? I never did enough and I never took my chances. Because to be honest I was afraid of change!

For 6 years I have been trying to live the true meaning of life but I never took a true initiative. Not that I did not know how to but because I never had the guts. Knowing what the right path is and still following a wrong one is more distressing than not knowing at all. It was hard to go on with a muddled headed philosophy of “change will come along; you just need to give it some time”. Funny thing is I gave it all the time in the world but it never came along! Not until I took that initiative and braced it with open arms.

September 12th, 2011 was the day I started taking Hijab and gave up a major part of my life… “Materialism” Two months later I look back, I see nothing but scattered particles of dust blown away by wind, a timeline of events, gone too soon! Really? Because I have been striving for them for far too long. If such was the impermanence of all my efforts that I put into seeing happiness through the eyes of this world, then how come I became so foolish to believe in it at the first place? But now that I have let it go, I realize that it’s never too late. God always answers, He is forever generous; you just need to give up the insubstantial for something that will remain forever.

When I decided to give up the induced epidemic of fashion, it almost seemed impossible. How can I stop following what’s in style? How can I just not make use of all those new and pretty dresses that I have? Most of all how can I suddenly cover myself in black and let people look at me with suspicion and later on find this unexpected change amusing. But wait a min all my life I have been doing what they think is right and look what I got from it. Nothing, I am empty handed. But now that I am putting my efforts in the right direction I feel sorry for all the time that I have wasted. The change that Allah helped me bring in myself made me understand the superiority and preeminence of submitting oneself to Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala.

The reaction of people around me was not much encouraging. My mother was not so sure that I would be able to pull it off, my sister said I am some crazy lunatic not knowing what she is up against (she thought I wasn’t serious) and my friends did not approve of this “radicalism”. I remember even the minute details of how nervous I was the first day I put on a plain black loose gown and covered my face so that only eyes were visible. When I entered in the class I could feel people staring at me and murmuring with some strange unease. I couldn’t understand everything but surely heard them saying, “is that her”? “What happened to her”? “Strange”! I had no option but to ignore them. Without saying anything I just came and sat with my best friend hoping for an approval. She looked at me, smiled and turned away. At that time i thought maybe it wasn’t such a good idea. Later that day I encountered diverse reactions. Few admired it, some remained indifferent and many asked such questions as “what happened to you? Your family is broadminded, why are you doing this?

These reactions were making things hard for me until I thought to myself that how can you know the true strength of your faith if it goes untested and how can you feel at odds when you know Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala is watching you and He is with you. Things became easier for me when a good friend told me that these hostile comments and opposing remarks is the best part because you get rewarded for that! So as the time went by I became accustomed to it and now it’s becoming less and less difficult to carry it.

I feel at ease with a dignified simplicity. Sometimes I feel it has given me the power and has strengthened my will to be that individual who I really wanted to be all this time. Hijab has shown me my true prominence in Islam and has made me its ambassador; making me strong and keeping me away from immorality that I might otherwise be exposed to. I feel that my conduct, my efforts and my actions represent and teach Islam to people without me saying anything. It makes me feel safe and protected. Most of all it has given me power to strengthen my faith. You just need to take that one step towards change and Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala will never disappoint you. But it’s up to you to take the true initiative and make that change instead of waiting for it to come along all by itself! Now when I dress up in my “black loose gown” it feels so good to be doing it for a cause, for my roots, my religion and for my Creator!
Anonymous

Tips on Modesty in Campus [university]

by Brother Mugheerah Luqman from Islamic Brother

To keep up modesty is really hard while you are in class with many mod-scott girls (whose main intentions are to attract boys towards them). However, we can't let it go. I do face this problem in my college class, so here is what I do:

Firstly,  there are various verses like lowering gaze and being strict in talking to non-mehram, etc.

We have weak Iman and really sometimes unintentionally we do things of which we really get ashamed of, so here is how I try to control my temptations:

 Firstly, While in class, I try my best to sit in the front row so that my eyes are more focused on the board and teacher and where girls are not visible.  The teacher pays much attention to the front benchers and they are to be ready for any type of responses from the teacher, so this way the attention is not diverted to non-mehram.
Secondly, I sit twisted in the chair in a way that my back is towards the girls sitting on the right side... and of course never ever sit with a girl even if I had to stand up.

 Secondly, I try my best to keep my JOKES to myself, especially when others are being popular and centre of attention. In other words try to keep a low profile and hide my laughter and show seriousness and whenever I realize that i'm a little loosing it, I start talking to myself by shutting my eyes, like Hey hold on, this is your test, You can not get whatever you like; then immediately start thinking of mission and purpose of life, etc. It really helps!

Thirdly,  Now when your outside the class, within the premises, your beard helps a lot as you see that girls are thinking of you as Molvi and stuff, especially when you put on Shalwaar Qameez with your ankles uncovered, you feel like your outclassed and then you realize what is your life and what you actually prioritize. At that moment you say, I could be like other boys but I am different and I am a slave of Allah, so here I go being proud of being considered as a MOLVI. Yes I am MOLVI.

Similarly it helps even more, when you say in class loudly to your mates, eyaar men MOLVI aadmi hn mujhey in baaton say koi saro kaar nai...

Well here is what I do, so you can try anyone of it.

Brother your beard and costume actually matters a lot! I really feel different when I wear shalwaar qameez in college and I try my best to wear that in college as much as I can, though I wear trousers and shirts too but only at home and stuff. But when it comes to institutions of western education and people inspired by them, I feel like, Here is the time to prove your Iman and FUNDAMENTALISM.

May Allah save us from the evils of such institutions...! Ameen!

Resisting sexual desires by Shaykh Muhammad al-Duwaysh

Praise be to Allaah.

Sexual desire is something that has been created in man and it cannot be got rid of. Getting rid of it is not something that is required of the Muslim; rather what is required of him is to refrain from using it in haraam ways, and to use it in the ways that Allaah has permitted.
 The problem of desire in a young woman may be solved by taking two steps.

The first step is to reduce and weaken the things that may provoke desire in a person.

This may be achieved in a number of ways, including the following:
 1 – Lowering the gaze and refraining from looking at that which Allaah has forbidden. Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):
 “And tell the believing women to lower their gaze (from looking at forbidden things), and protect their private parts (from illegal sexual acts)”
 [al-Noor 24:31]
The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Do not follow one glance with another, for the first is allowed but not the second.” There are many sources of haraam looking, such as looking directly at young men and thinking about their attractive looks, or looking at pictures in magazines and movies.
 2 – Avoiding reading stories and novels which focus on the sexual aspect, and avoiding reading internet websites which deal with such topics.
 3 – Keeping away from bad company.
 4 – Avoiding thinking about desire as much as possible. Thinking in and of itself is not haraam, but if one thinks about it for too long, that may lead a person to haraam actions.
 5 – Spending one's time in useful pursuits, because spare time may lead one to fall into haraam things.
 6 – Avoiding as much as possible going to public places where young men and women mix.
 7 – If a girl is tested with studying in a mixed environment, and cannot find any alternative, she has to remain modest, serious and dignified, and should avoid sitting with young men and speaking to them as much as possible. She should restrict her relationships to friendships with righteous female classmates.
The second step is To strengthen the factors that will prevent one acting in accordance with one’s desires. 

This is achieved in a number of ways, including the following:
 1 – Strengthening the faith in one’s heart and strengthening one’s relationship with Allaah. This may be achieved by remembering Allaah a great deal, reading Qur’aan, thinking of the names and attributes of Allaah, and doing a lot of naafil prayers. Belief strengthens the heart and soul, and it helps one to resist temptation.
 2 – Fasting, as taught by the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) when he said: “O young men, whoever among you can afford to, let him get married, for it is more effective in lowering the gaze and in guarding one’s chastity. Whoever cannot afford it, then let him fast, for it will be a shield for him.” This is addressed to young men, but it also includes young women.
 3 – Strengthening one’s resolve and willpower, for this will make a young woman able to resist and control her desires.
 4 – Remembering what Allaah has prepared for righteous young women. Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):
 “Verily, the Muslims (those who submit to Allaah in Islam) men and women, the believers men and women (who believe in Islamic Monotheism), the men and the women who are obedient (to Allaah), the men and women who are truthful (in their speech and deeds), the men and the women who are patient (in performing all the duties which Allaah has ordered and in abstaining from all that Allaah has forbidden), the men and the women who are humble (before their Lord Allaah), the men and the women who give Sadaqaat (i.e. Zakaah and alms), the men and the women who observe Sawm (fast) (the obligatory fasting during the month of Ramadaan, and the optional Nawafil fasting), the men and the women who guard their chastity (from illegal sexual acts) and the men and the women who remember Allaah much with their hearts and tongues. Allaah has prepared for them forgiveness and a great reward (i.e. Paradise)”
 [al-Ahzaab 33:35]
 5 – Thinking about the lives of righteous women who guarded their chastity, such as Maryam, whom Allaah praises in the Qur’aan (interpretation of the meaning):
“And Maryam (Mary), the daughter of ‘Imraan who guarded her chastity. And We breathed into (the sleeve of her shirt or her garment) through Our Rooh [i.e. Jibreel (Gabriel)], and she testified to the truth of the Words of her Lord [i.e. believed in the Words of Allaah: “Be!” and he was; that is ‘Eesa (Jesus), son of Maryam (Mary) as a Messenger of Allaah], and (also believed in) His Scriptures, and she was of the Qaanitoon (i.e. obedient to Allaah)”
 [al-Tahreem 66:12]
 And thinking about the immoral, fallen women, and comparing between the two types, for there is a huge difference between them.
 6 – Choosing righteous companions and spending time with them, so that they can help one another to obey and worship Allaah.
 7 – Comparing the effects of immediate fulfillment of desire when a girl responds to haraam, which is followed by loss of pleasure and all that is left is regret and sorrow, with patience and striving against one’s whims and desires, and realizing that the pleasure of conquering one’s whim and desires is far greater than the pleasures of enjoying haraam things.
 8 – Seeking help by calling upon Allaah and asking Him for help. The Qur’aan tells us the lesson to be learned from the story of Yoosuf (peace be upon him):
“He said: ‘O my Lord! Prison is dearer to me than that to which they invite me. Unless You turn away their plot from me, I will feel inclined towards them and be one (of those who commit sin and deserve blame or those who do deeds) of the ignorant’
 So his Lord answered his invocation and turned away from him their plot. Verily, He is the All‑Hearer, the All‑Knower”
 [Yoosuf 12:33 – interpretation of the meaning]
Shaykh Muhammad al-Duwaysh


Avoiding wrong actions with patience


Al-Imaam Ibn Al-Qayyim -rahimahullaah- said [1],
“Patience in abstaining from wrong action can be achieved through the fear of the punishment which follows the wrong action, or through a feeling of hayaa’ (shyness or shame) before Allaah -subhaanah wa ta’aalaa- for using His blessings in committing wrong actions."

That feeling of hayaa’ before Allaah -subhaanah wa ta’aalaa- can be strengthened through learning more about Allaah -‘azz wa jall- and knowing more about His Names and Attributes.

Al-Hayaa’ is a characteristic of people who are noble and possess good qualities, so the person who refrains from wrong action because of hayaa’ is better than the one who abstains because of fear.

Al-Hayaa’ indicates that a person is mindful of Allaah -subhaanah wa ta’aalaa- and His Might. The person whose deterrent is the fear of Allaah -subhaanah wa ta’aalaa- has his thoughts focused on the punishment. The fearful person’s main concern is himself and how to save himself from the punishment, whereas the “shy” person’s main concern is Allaah -‘azz wa jall- and His Glory.

Both have attained the status of Eemaan, but the “shy” person has attained Al-Ihsaan, a higher status of Eemaan, in which he conducts himself as if he can see Allaah -‘azz wa jall-, and so his heart is filled with hayaa’.

The reason why it is so important for a believer to abstain from wrong action is because he must protect his Eemaan, as wrong action decreases Eemaan or extinguishes it.

The best way to help oneself abstain from wrong action is to break all bad habits, and forsake all those who encourage one to commit wrong actions. Habits have a strong hold over man’s behaviour, and if habit is accompanied by desires, this means that there are two soldiers of Ash-Shaytaan fighting the motives of reason and religion, which cannot then withstand them.”

[1] Refer to: ‘Uddah As-Saabireen Wa Dhakheerah Ash-Shaakireen of Imaam Ibn Al-Qayyim Al-Jawzeeyah rehimahullah

Man Edition: TWENTY SEVEN -- Means of helping oneself to lower one’s gaze

                   Praise be to Allaah.                 


Question: 

My Problem is that i can not stop looking so-called clothes girls which do wanton display (tabarruj) {with out islamic hijab} around me in school, market and everywhere  in my Country.

Answer:  
 
 Praise be to Allaah.
 
 This situation leads to haraam things and major sins, including mixing, touching and zina (unlawful sexual relationships), all of which stem from looking.

Sharee’ah came to forbid the ways that lead to immorality, one of which is looking at non-mahram women.

1 – Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):
“Tell the believing men to lower their gaze (from looking at forbidden things), and protect their private parts (from illegal sexual acts)”
[al-Noor 24:30]

Imaam Ibn Katheer said:

This is a command from Allaah to His believing slaves to lower their gaze and refrain from looking at that which is forbidden to them. So they should not look at anything except that which they are permitted to look at, and they should lower their gaze and refrain from looking at forbidden things. If it so happens that a person’s gaze accidentally falls upon something forbidden, he should quickly avert his gaze.

Tafseer Ibn Katheer, 3/282

2- 
Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):
“And when you ask (his wives) for anything you want, ask them from behind a screen, that is purer for your hearts and for their hearts”
[al-Ahzaab 33:53]
3 –
 It was narrated that Jareer ibn ‘Abd-Allaah said: “I asked the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) about a sudden glance, and he commanded me to avert my gaze.”
(Narrated by Muslim, 2159) 

al-Nawawi said:

What is meant by a “sudden glance” is when a person’s glance unintentionally falls upon a non-mahram woman. There is no sin on him for the first glance, but he must avert his gaze immediately. If he averts his gaze immediately there is no sin on him, but if he continues looking, then he will be a sinner, because of this hadeeth, for the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) commanded him to avert his gaze,
and Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):
“Tell the believing men to lower their gaze (from looking at forbidden things)”
[al-Noor 24:30]

Men must lower their gaze and refrain from looking at them in all circumstances, unless that is for a valid shar’i reason, such as giving testimony, medical treatment, wanting to propose marriage, buying a slave woman, engaging in financial transactions such as buying and selling, etc. In all these cases it is permissible to look as much as is needed, and no more. And Allaah knows best.

Sharh Muslim, 14/139

Secondly:
There are means which help a person to lower his gaze, and we ask Allaah to help you to do them:

1 – Bearing in mind the fact that Allaah is watching you, that He sees you and is with you (by His knowledge) wherever you go. It may be a secretive glance of which your neighbour is unaware, but Allaah knows of it.

Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):
“Allaah knows the fraud of the eyes, and all that the hearts conceal”
[Ghaafir 40:19]

2 – Seeking the help of Allaah, beseeching Him and calling upon Him (du’aa’).

Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):
“And your Lord said: Invoke Me [i.e. believe in My Oneness (Islamic Monotheism) and ask Me for anything] I will respond to your (invocation).”
[Ghaafir 40:60]

3 – You should know that every blessing you enjoy comes from Allaah, and requires that you should give thanks. Part of the gratitude for the blessing of sight means that you should protect it from looking at that which Allaah has forbidden. Is there any reward for good, other than good? [cf. al-Rahmaan 55:60]
Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):
“And whatever of blessings and good things you have, it is from Allaah”
[al-Nahl 16:53]

4 – Striving with your self and training yourself to lower your gaze and be patient in doing so, and not giving up. 
Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning:

“As for those who strive hard in Us (Our Cause), We will surely guide them to Our paths (i.e. Allaah’s religion — Islamic Monotheism)”
[al-‘Ankaboot 29:69]

The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Whoever seeks to be chaste, Allaah will make him chaste, and whoever seeks to be independent of means, Allaah will make him independent of means, and whoever strives to be patient, Allaah will make him patient…” (Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 1400)

5 – Avoiding places where a person feels he will be exposed to the temptation of looking, if he can manage to avoid them, such as going to marketplaces or malls, and sitting in the street.

The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: 
“Beware of sitting in the street.” They said, “We have no alternative; that is where we sit and talk.” He said, “If you insist on sitting there, then give the street its rights.” They said, “What are the rights of the street?” He said, “Lowering the gaze and refraining from causing offence…” (Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 2333; Muslim, 2121).

6 – You should realize that you have no choice in this matter, regardless of what the circumstances are and no matter how great the temptation or motive to do evil, and no matter what emotions and overwhelming desires stir in your heart. You must lower your gaze and refrain from looking at haraam things in all places and at all times. You cannot use excuses such as the environment being corrupt or justify your mistakes by saying that there is a lot of temptation around.

Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):
“It is not for a believer, man or woman, when Allaah and His Messenger have decreed a matter that they should have any option in their decision. And whoever disobeys Allaah and His Messenger, he has indeed strayed into a plain error”
[al-Ahzaab 33:36]

7 – Doing a lot of naafil acts of worship, because doing a lot of them whilst also regularly doing obligatory acts of worship is a means of protecting one's physical faculties.

According to a hadeeth qudsi,

Allaah said:

“… and My slave continues to draw close to Me with supererogatory (naafil) works so that I shall love him. And when I love him, I am his hearing with which he hears, his seeing with which he sees, his hand with which he strikes and his foot with which he walks. Were he to ask (something) of Me, I would surely give it to him, and were he to ask Me for refuge, I would surely grant him it.”

(al-Bukhaari, 6137

8 – Remembering that the earth on which sin is committed will bear witness.
Allaah says:
“That Day it will declare its information (about all that happened over it of good or evil)”
[al-Zalzalah 99:4]

9 – Remembering the angels who are recording your deeds.

Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):
“But verily, over you (are appointed angels in charge of mankind) to watch you,
Kiraaman (Honourable) Kaatibeen —writing down (your deeds),
They know all that you do”
[al-Infitaar 82:10-12]

10 – Bearing in mind some of the texts which forbid letting the gaze wander freely, such as the verse in which Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):
 “Tell the believing men to lower their gaze (from looking at forbidden things)”
[al-Noor 24:30]

11 – Avoiding looking unnecessarily, so that you only look at what you need to look at, and you do not let your gaze wander right and left so that it falls upon something the effects and fitnah of which cannot be got rid of quickly.

12 – Marriage, which is one of the most effective remedies.
The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said:
“Whoever can afford it, let him get married, for it is more effective in lowering the gaze and in guarding one’s chastity. And whoever cannot afford it, let him fast, for it will be a shield for him.” (Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 1806; Muslim, 1400).

13 – Fasting – because of the hadeeth quoted above.

14 – Doing obligatory acts of worship as Allaah has commanded, such as prayer.

Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):
“Verily, As‑Salaah (the prayer) prevents from Al‑Fahshaa’ (i.e. great sins of every kind, unlawful sexual intercourse) and Al‑Munkar (i.e. disbelief, polytheism, and every kind of evil wicked deed)”
[al-‘Ankaboot 29:45]

15 – Remembering al-hoor al-‘ayn, which will give you a motive to be patient in avoiding that which Allaah has forbidden, hoping to get al-hoor al-‘ayn.

Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):
“Companions of Equal Age ”
[al-Naba’ 78:33]
And the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said:
“… If a woman of the people of Paradise were to look out over the people of this earth, it would light up everything in between and fill it with fragrance, and the veil of her head is better than this world and everything in it.” (Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 2643).

16 – Bearing in mind the shortcomings of the one who is looked at and the filth and waste material they carry in their gut.

17 – Being ambitious and focusing on nobler things.

18 – Checking on yourself from time to time and striving to make yourself lower your gaze whilst realizing that everyone makes mistakes.

19 – Thinking of the pain and regret that will result from this looking, and the effects of letting one’s gaze wander.

20 – Understanding the benefits of lowering one's gaze, as mentioned above.

21 – Bringing up this topic in meetings and gatherings, and explaining its dangers.

22 – Advising your relatives, telling them not to wear clothes that attract attention and show their attractions, such as how they dress, wearing bright colours, how they walk, speaking too softly, etc.

23 – Warding off passing thoughts and whispers from the Shaytaan before they take hold and are acted upon. Whoever lowers his gaze after the first glance will be saved from innumerable problems, but if he keeps looking he cannot be certain that seeds that will be difficult to remove will not be planted in his heart.

25 – Being afraid of a bad end, and of feeling regret at the point of death.

26 – Keeping company with good people, because you are naturally affected by the characteristics of the people you mix with, and a person will follow the way of his close friend, and a friend will pull you to follow his way.

27 – Knowing that the zina of the eye is looking, and that should be sufficient to put you off.

Adapted from an essay entitled Ghadd al-Basr (Lowering the Gaze) by a student of sharee’ah.

And Allaah knows best.
Islam Q&A

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Published by: Mohammad Rana Usman Nisar 

Oh, Men of Muslim community, stop looking at women


In the Name of Allah, the Most Beneficent, the Most Merciful.

Oh, Men of Muslim community, stop looking at women

|Just Short admonisher|


Allah says:  

Tell the believing men to lower their gaze (from looking at forbidden things), and protect their private parts (from illegal sexual acts, etc.). That is purer for them. Verily, Allah is All-Aware of what they do. 

[Surah Al-Nur verse 30] 

Jareer ibn ‘Abdullaah said:

"I asked the Messenger of Allaah (Peace & Blessings of Allaah be upon Him) about an accidental glance at a woman. He commanded me to turn my gaze away."
(Reported by al-Tirmidhi, who said: This is a saheeh hasan hadeeth. See al-Sunan, 2700).

Commenting on this hadeeth, al-Mubaarakpoori said:

" ‘Accidental’ means that his gaze fell on a non-mahram woman unintentionally. ‘He commanded me to turn my gaze away’ means that he was not to look a second time, because the first glance was not by choice and would be forgiven, but any further glances would be counted as sin, and he should heed the words of Allaah (interpretation of the meaning): ‘Tell the believing men to lower their gaze (from looking at forbidden things)…’ [al-Noor 24:30]"

The Messenger of Allaah (Peace & Blessings of Allaah be upon Him) said: 

"O Ali, do not follow a glance with another, for you will be forgiven for the first, but not for the second."

(Reported by al-Tirmidhi, 2701; see Saheeh al-Jaami’, 7953)

In al-Tuhfah, he said:

"The words ‘do not follow a glance with another’ mean do not look again after the first glance. ‘You will be forgiven for the first’ means that you will be forgiven if the first glance was unintentional, and ‘but not for the second’ means that because the second glance was by choice, it will be counted against you."

So it is clear that deliberately looking at a non-mahram woman and continuing to look after a first accidental glance is haraam. It is forbidden to look at any part of her body, whether you think she is beautiful or not, whether it provokes sexual desire or not, whether it is accompanied by evil thoughts or not, and whether it leads to immoral deeds or not.

We ask Allaah to protect you and us from all haraam deeds. Allaah is the One Who guides to the Straight Path.
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