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Get Married or Try Fasting (Hadith No. 1624)

Bismillah.
Volume 3, Book 31, Number 129:
Narrated 'Alqama:
While I was walking with 'Abdullah (radiallaahu `anhu) he said, "We were in the company of the Prophet (sallallaahu `alayhi wasallam) and he said, 'He who can afford to marry should marry, because it will help him refrain from looking at other women, and save his private parts from looking at other women, and save his private parts from committing illegal sexual relation; and he who cannot afford to marry is advised to fast, as fasting will diminish his sexual power."
Sexual desire is something that has been created in man and it cannot be got rid of. Getting rid of it is not something that is required of the Muslim; rather what is required of him is to refrain from using it in haraam ways, and to use it in the ways that Allaah has permitted.
Halaal way: get married. If you can't, fast. It's going to help you resist the desire inshaAllah.
How to resist sexual desires? Read about the 2-step solution to this problem here.
Is there any benefit in resisting/breaking this desire? Read an interesting approach on this subject here.

I AM A MOLVIE AND I TOO HAVE DESIRES…!

I AM A MOLVIE AND I TOO HAVE DESIRES…!
(Abu Jammaz)
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السلام عليكم ورحمة الله وبركاته
Brothers and Sisters in Islam! Today I was thinking of sharing something which actually reflects our attitude towards religious figures... We all know that in this world only Prophets (A.S) are معصوم (innocent) from all kinds of iniquities, but when it comes to expectations, we look forward to every religious figure and expect for him to become an angel....! We expect them to be innocent from every flaw; we expect perfections, whereas we all know that they are also humans like us and can make mistakes… They too have longings and temptations. Satan whispers evil in their hearts too and sometimes they are overwhelmed by it…! Allah says thus:
يريد الله ان يخفف عنكم وخلق الانسان ضعيفا * النساء 28
"And Allah wants to lighten for you [your difficulties]; and mankind was created weak."
This statement of Allah SWT is general and comprises of every human being, including religious men/women. Similarly Allah SWT says:
ويدع الانسان بالشر دعاءه بالخير وكان الانسان عجولا * الاسراء 11
And man supplicates for evil as he supplicates for good, and man is ever hasty.
We forget that even the greatest people on the face of the Earth made mistakes i.e. Sahabah R.A and some of them were even punished for that…! We do not think bad about them, as we all believe that they were human beings, they were best and whatever unwanted showed up was their human weakness which overwhelmed them…! What a strange thing, we consider them humans and at the same time consider our religious figures as angels and if they make some mistake, propagate to such an extent which devalues them in every eye and disregard everything they did good for the sake of Allah. ISNT IT UNFAIR???? People tend to find mistakes in scholars so that they can satisfy their inner conscience by saying that at least I’m not a hypocrite and do not do anything wrong while ornamenting beard on my face…! You must have heard people saying that I hate that religious man as once I saw him doing this and from that day I don’t like him and I don’t want to listen to what he says as he himself is not doing it…! Despite of all the good being spread, we forget and pick one small mistake and propagate and from that day forge a fallacious opinion about them….!!!! We were supposed to hide such weaknesses and especially of those people who are doing something for Islam with sincerity and endeavoring, because this would become a big hurdle in their way… It is our responsibility not to speak bad about religious scholars even if we know something heinous about them but as it would result in becoming a hurdle, we must keep silence and forbear… Allah SWT says:
ومن ستر مسلما ستره الله يوم القيامة * بخاري 2442
And whoever conceals any (fault of the) Muslim, Allah will conceal his on the day of Resurrection (in front of the whole world).
We must understand that by this attitude, how big hurdle we become in the path of these Preachers and Scholars and ultimately in the path of Dawah of Islam, because will not be moved by the message if they come to know the weakness of the Daa’I (preacher) persuading them to revert…!
May Allah show us the right path and lead us to the righteousness and make us a source of aid in his path in spite of making us a hurdle…! Ameen!

Early Age Marriage & its benefits [show ur parents]


Taken from: ISLAAM’S SOLUTION FOR THE PROBLEMS FACING TODAY’S YOUTH, Pgs. 44-48
From among the benefits of getting married at an early age is the obtaining of children, which make the youth delighted at their presence.
Allah says:
And those who say: “Our Lord! Bestow on us from our wives and our offspring who will be the comfort of our eyes, and make us leaders for the Muttaqûn ” (pious – see V.2:2 and the footnote of V.3:164).” (Al-Furqan 25:74)
Wives and children are a deligh; Allah prmised that marriage brings about pleasure. This pleasure encourages and persuades the youth to take an interest in matrimony.
This is also similar to how Allah mentioned that childred are a share of this world’s beauty.
Wealth and children are the adornment of the life of this world. But the good righteous deeds (five compulsory prayers, deeds of Allâh’s obedience, good and nice talk, remembrance of Allâh with glorification, praises and thanks, etc.), that last, are better with your Lord for rewards and better in respect of hope. (Al-Kahf 18:46)
Therefore, this world is adorned by children. The human-being seeks out adornment the same ways he tries to obtain wealth. Similarly, he craves for children, because they are equal to wealth in their existence. This is in this world. Then in the hereafter, righteous children can benefit their fathers as the Prophet sallalahu ‘alayhe wasallam said:
“Whenever the son of Adam dies his action stop except three: Knowledge that benefits people, a recurring charity, and a righteous child that supplicates for his parent .”
(Hadeeth Saheeh, Collected by Muslim #1631)
The second benefit of matrimony at an early age is that it produces children increasing the Muslim Ummah and Islaamic society. The Prophet sallalahu ‘alayhe wasallam said
“Marry the loving and fertile, for verily I want to have the largest Ummah on the Day of Resurrection.”

[Hadeeth Saheeh, Collected by Abu Dawud in his Sunnan (#2050), An-Nisa'i in his Sunnan As-Sughara (#3227), Al-Hakim in Al-Mustadrak (#2/162), and Ibn Hibban in his Saheeh (#4057), Al-Baghawee in his Sharh-us-Sunnah (#9/17), Al-Bayhaqee in his Sunnan AL-Kubara (#7/81) on the authority of Ma'qal Ibn Yasaar. Graded Saheeh by Al-Albani in his checking of Abu Dawud.] 
Great blessing result from marriage. From among them are the ones we previously mentioned. So if these virtues and blessings are explained to the adolscents, then the fallacious problems that hinder people from getting married will disappear.
As for the saying that, getting married at an early age diverts from gaining knowledge and from studying, this is not the case. Rather, the opposite of this is correct because tranquility, peace of mind, and pleasure never cease to be obtained through marriage. These things help the student to reach his goal because, he has peace of mind, and his thoughts are not cluttered due to discomfort and this helps him study.
Now on the other hand abstaining from marriage in reality blocks whatever knowledge he wants to attain, because it is not possible to acquire knowledge in a state of confusion and anxiety. However, if he gets married, his mind is at rest and his soul is at ease. He gets a house to take as a shelter and a wife who relaxes and helps him. These things help him to attain knowledge.
If Allah makes it easy and this marraige becomes a source of comfot to become a relationship, then this is from among the things which make it easy for the student to pursue knowledge. Matrimony does not block the path to knowledge as some believe. For that reason, having children is an enormous blessing in this life and in the next.
As for the statement that marriage at an early age burdens the adolsecent to supply provisions for his children, wife and other responsibilities, this also is not correct. Along with marriage comes blessings and well-being. Matrimony is obedience to Allah and His Messenger sallalahu ‘alayhe wasallam and there is good in every act of obedience. So if the youth gets married following the orders of the Prophet sallalahu ‘alayhe wasallam by seeking the blessings that have been promised with the correct intentions, then this marriage will be a reason for his blessings. The provisions are in the hands of Allah.
Allah, the Mighty and Majestic states:
وَمَا مِن دَآبَّةٍ فِي الأَرْضِ إِلاَّ عَلَى اللّهِ رِزْقُهَا
And no (moving) living creature is there on earth but its provision is due from Allâh.
(Hud 11:6)
Consequently, if Allah makes it easy for you to get married, then He will make providing for your children easy.
نَّحْنُ نَرْزُقُكُمْ وَإِيَّاهُمْ
We provide sustenance for you and for them. (Al-An’am 6:151)
Marriage does not burden the young man above his ability as some of the people think. Marriage brings benefits and blessings. Matrimony is a necessary Sunnah of Allah for the human-being. Matrimony is not a horrible nightmare. It is only a door from the doors of righteousness for the person with the correct intention.
As for the excuses about the obstacles placed in the path of marriage, then this is from their evil behavior. Marriage in itself does not require such things as a plump dowry, parties which amount to more than required or other expenses with no authority from Allah. Rather, what is required is a wedding with ease.
Hence, it is a duty to clarify to the people that these extravagances placed in the path to a wedding bring about evil consequences for their sons and daughters. These extravagances are not from their well-being. Therefore, it is a must to remedy these problems, so that matrimony can return to its ease and convenience.
We ask Allah the Glorious and Most High to grant us the safety of success, guidance and to rectify the condition of all of us. We ask Allah to rectify the Muslim youth and to return the Muslims to their rank and honor the same way Allah gave the Muslim honor before. We ask Allah to return this honor and to rectify the Muslims state.
Allah says the Most High:
وَلِلَّهِ الْعِزَّةُ وَلِرَسُولِهِ وَلِلْمُؤْمِنِينَ وَلَكِنَّالْمُنَافِقِينَ لَا يَعْلَمُونَ 
But honour, power and glory belong to Allâh, His Messenger (Muhammad Sallalahu ‘Alayhe Wasallam), and to the believers, but the hypocrites know not. (Al-Munafiqun 63:8)
We ask Allah to give the Muslims insight in their religion and to protect them from the evil of their enemies. Peace and blessings be upon our Prophet, his family and all his companions. Praise be to Allah.

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Nosherwan Huma Halal has become difficult and the Haram easy! Oh Allah! please turn the hearts of our parents towards what is best... (in terms of Aakhirah, of course!)

Resisting sexual desires by Shaykh Muhammad al-Duwaysh

Praise be to Allaah.

Sexual desire is something that has been created in man and it cannot be got rid of. Getting rid of it is not something that is required of the Muslim; rather what is required of him is to refrain from using it in haraam ways, and to use it in the ways that Allaah has permitted.
 The problem of desire in a young woman may be solved by taking two steps.

The first step is to reduce and weaken the things that may provoke desire in a person.

This may be achieved in a number of ways, including the following:
 1 – Lowering the gaze and refraining from looking at that which Allaah has forbidden. Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):
 “And tell the believing women to lower their gaze (from looking at forbidden things), and protect their private parts (from illegal sexual acts)”
 [al-Noor 24:31]
The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Do not follow one glance with another, for the first is allowed but not the second.” There are many sources of haraam looking, such as looking directly at young men and thinking about their attractive looks, or looking at pictures in magazines and movies.
 2 – Avoiding reading stories and novels which focus on the sexual aspect, and avoiding reading internet websites which deal with such topics.
 3 – Keeping away from bad company.
 4 – Avoiding thinking about desire as much as possible. Thinking in and of itself is not haraam, but if one thinks about it for too long, that may lead a person to haraam actions.
 5 – Spending one's time in useful pursuits, because spare time may lead one to fall into haraam things.
 6 – Avoiding as much as possible going to public places where young men and women mix.
 7 – If a girl is tested with studying in a mixed environment, and cannot find any alternative, she has to remain modest, serious and dignified, and should avoid sitting with young men and speaking to them as much as possible. She should restrict her relationships to friendships with righteous female classmates.
The second step is To strengthen the factors that will prevent one acting in accordance with one’s desires. 

This is achieved in a number of ways, including the following:
 1 – Strengthening the faith in one’s heart and strengthening one’s relationship with Allaah. This may be achieved by remembering Allaah a great deal, reading Qur’aan, thinking of the names and attributes of Allaah, and doing a lot of naafil prayers. Belief strengthens the heart and soul, and it helps one to resist temptation.
 2 – Fasting, as taught by the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) when he said: “O young men, whoever among you can afford to, let him get married, for it is more effective in lowering the gaze and in guarding one’s chastity. Whoever cannot afford it, then let him fast, for it will be a shield for him.” This is addressed to young men, but it also includes young women.
 3 – Strengthening one’s resolve and willpower, for this will make a young woman able to resist and control her desires.
 4 – Remembering what Allaah has prepared for righteous young women. Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):
 “Verily, the Muslims (those who submit to Allaah in Islam) men and women, the believers men and women (who believe in Islamic Monotheism), the men and the women who are obedient (to Allaah), the men and women who are truthful (in their speech and deeds), the men and the women who are patient (in performing all the duties which Allaah has ordered and in abstaining from all that Allaah has forbidden), the men and the women who are humble (before their Lord Allaah), the men and the women who give Sadaqaat (i.e. Zakaah and alms), the men and the women who observe Sawm (fast) (the obligatory fasting during the month of Ramadaan, and the optional Nawafil fasting), the men and the women who guard their chastity (from illegal sexual acts) and the men and the women who remember Allaah much with their hearts and tongues. Allaah has prepared for them forgiveness and a great reward (i.e. Paradise)”
 [al-Ahzaab 33:35]
 5 – Thinking about the lives of righteous women who guarded their chastity, such as Maryam, whom Allaah praises in the Qur’aan (interpretation of the meaning):
“And Maryam (Mary), the daughter of ‘Imraan who guarded her chastity. And We breathed into (the sleeve of her shirt or her garment) through Our Rooh [i.e. Jibreel (Gabriel)], and she testified to the truth of the Words of her Lord [i.e. believed in the Words of Allaah: “Be!” and he was; that is ‘Eesa (Jesus), son of Maryam (Mary) as a Messenger of Allaah], and (also believed in) His Scriptures, and she was of the Qaanitoon (i.e. obedient to Allaah)”
 [al-Tahreem 66:12]
 And thinking about the immoral, fallen women, and comparing between the two types, for there is a huge difference between them.
 6 – Choosing righteous companions and spending time with them, so that they can help one another to obey and worship Allaah.
 7 – Comparing the effects of immediate fulfillment of desire when a girl responds to haraam, which is followed by loss of pleasure and all that is left is regret and sorrow, with patience and striving against one’s whims and desires, and realizing that the pleasure of conquering one’s whim and desires is far greater than the pleasures of enjoying haraam things.
 8 – Seeking help by calling upon Allaah and asking Him for help. The Qur’aan tells us the lesson to be learned from the story of Yoosuf (peace be upon him):
“He said: ‘O my Lord! Prison is dearer to me than that to which they invite me. Unless You turn away their plot from me, I will feel inclined towards them and be one (of those who commit sin and deserve blame or those who do deeds) of the ignorant’
 So his Lord answered his invocation and turned away from him their plot. Verily, He is the All‑Hearer, the All‑Knower”
 [Yoosuf 12:33 – interpretation of the meaning]
Shaykh Muhammad al-Duwaysh


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