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Charity of a Woman (Ahadith 1774 - 1775)

Bismillah.
Hadith no. 1773 (below) is a repeat. Read it here.
Volume 3, Book 34, Number 278:
Narrated Jabir (radiallaahu `anhu):
A caravan arrived (at Medina) while we were offering the Jumua prayer with the Prophet (sallallaahu `alayhi wasallam). The people left out for the caravan, with the exception of twelve persons. Then this Verse was revealed: 'But when they see some bargain or some amusement, they disperse headlong to it and leave you standing." (62.11)

Charity of a Woman: Does she need her husband's permission?

Volume 3, Book 34, Number 279:
Narrated 'Aisha (radiallaahu `anhaa):
The Prophet (sallallaahu `alayhi wasallam) said, "If a woman gives in charity from her house meals without wasting (i.e. being extravagant), she will get the reward for her giving, and her husband will also get the reward for his earning and the storekeeper will also get a similar reward. The acquisition of the reward of none of them will reduce the reward of the others."

Volume 3, Book 34, Number 280:
Narrated Abu Huraira (radiallaahu `anhu):
The Prophet (sallallaahu `alayhi wasallam) said, "If a woman gives something (i.e. in charity) from her husband's earnings without his permission, she will get half his reward."
There is nothing wrong with a woman giving charity from her husband’s wealth if he has given her permission to do so. This permission may be explicit (verbal), such as if he says to her: “You can give such and such of my wealth in charity, or whatever you wish.” 
Or this permission may be implicit, such as if people ordinarily agree to such things or it is known from her husband’s attitude that he will agree to that and will not object. 
In that case there is nothing wrong with her giving charity from her husband’s wealth, and she will have the reward for that charity as will her husband too. 
But if he does not allow her, or if she knows that he would not agree to that, then in that case it is not permissible for her to give anything from his wealth in charity. 
Shaykh Ibn ‘Uthaymeen (may Allaah have mercy on him) was asked: Is it permissible for a woman to give charity from her husband’s wealth on her own behalf or on behalf of one who is dead? He replied:
It is well known that the husband’s wealth belongs to the husband and it is not permissible for anyone to give charity from the wealth of anyone else except with his permission. If the husband has given her permission to give charity on her own behalf, or on behalf of whomever she wishes among her deceased loved ones, there is no sin on her, but if he has not given permission then it is not permissible for her to give anything in charity, because it is his wealth and it is not permissible to take the wealth of a Muslim without his consent. End quote.
Majmoo’ Fataawa Ibn ‘Uthaymeen (18/472)
Taken from IslamQA
Note: There's nothing wrong with a woman spending of her own wealth without her husband's permission. She can spend it where she thinks it proper and do charity from it, and there's no harm. Although it's better to consult him and ask him of his opinion to make him feel good and important, according to the scholars. But when it comes to dealing with her husband's wealth, she can spend of it whatever he allows her to. If he is stingy, she can take from it without his permission whatever is sufficient for her needs. And as for charity from her husband's wealth, she needs his permission.

The Shaytaan in You (Hadith No. 1746)

Bismillah.
Volume 3, Book 33, Number 251:
Narrated Ali bin Al-Husain:
Safiya (radiallaahu `anhaa), the wife of the Prophet (sallallaahu `alayhi wasallam) told me that she went to Allah's Apostle (sallallaahu `alayhi wasallam) to visit him in the mosque while he was in Itikaf in the last ten days of Ramadan. She had a talk with him for a while, then she got up in order to return home. The Prophet (sallallaahu `alayhi wasallam) accompanied her. When they reached the gate of the mosque, opposite the door of Um-Salama (radiallaahu `anhaa), two Ansari men were passing by and they greeted Allah's Apostle (sallallaahu `alayhi wasallam). He told them: Do not run away! And said, "She is (my wife) Safiya bint Huyai (radiallaahu `anhaa)." Both of them said, "Subhan Allah, (How dare we think of any evil) O Allah's Apostle (sallallaahu `alayhi wasallam)!" And they felt it. The Prophet (sallallaahu `alayhi wasallam) said (to them), "Satan reaches everywhere in the human body as blood reaches in it, (everywhere in one's body). I was afraid lest Satan might insert an evil thought in your minds."
  1. Wives may visit their husbands in I`tikaaf.
  2. The man may accompany his wife on her way back - not leaving the masjid without necessity.
  3. Never entertain evil thoughts about your Muslims brothers and sisters in your head. Never.
  4. If you're doing something that might seem fishy to others, you might as well explain to them your intention/the reality before Shaytan gets the better of them.
  5. Prophet (sallallaahu `alayhi wasallam) said "Shaytan reaches everywhere in the human body as blood reaches in it", and we take this statement on face value. We do NOT try to explain and rationalize everything according to modern day science like it's been done in this article. *face-palm*

One Cute Incident (Ahadith 1744 - 1745)

Bismillah.
Volume 3, Book 33, Number 249:
Narrated 'Amra:
Aisha (radiallaahu `anhaa) said, "the Prophet (sallallaahu `alayhi wasallam) used to practice Itikaf in the last ten days of Ramadan and I used to pitch a tent for him, and after offering the morning prayer, he used to enter the tent." Hafsa (radiallaahu `anhaa) asked the permission of 'Aisha (radiallaahu `anhaa) to pitch a tent for her and she allowed her and she pitched her tent. When Zainab bint Jahsh (radiallaahu `anhaa) saw it, she pitched another tent. In the morning the Prophet (sallallaahu `alayhi wasallam) noticed the tents. He said, 'What is this?" He was told of the whole situation. Then the Prophet (sallallaahu `alayhi wasallam) said, "Do you think that they intended to do righteousness by doing this?" He therefore abandoned the Itikaf in that month and practiced Itikaf for ten days in the month of Shawwal."

Volume 3, Book 33, Number 250:
Narrated 'Aisha (radiallaahu `anhaa):
The Prophet (sallallaahu `alayhi wasallam) intended to practice Itikaf and when he reached the place where he intended to perform Itikaf, he saw some tents, the tents of 'Aisha (radiallaahu `anhaa), Hafsa (radiallaahu `anhaa) and Zainab (radiallaahu `anhaa). So, he said, "Do you consider that they intended to do righteousness by doing this?" And then he went away and did not perform Itikaf (in Ramadan) but performed it in the month of Shawwal for ten days.
Prophet (sallallaahu `alayhi wasallam) feared that the wives' intentions might be inclined more towards pleasing him rather than pleasing Allah, so he abandoned I`tikaaf to discourage such behavior. Aren't wives (Mothers of the Believers, and wives in general) so cute? :)

The Best of Women (Hadith No. 1542)


Bismillah.
Hadith No. 1541 (below) is a repeat. Read it here.
Volume 3, Book 27, Number 18:
Narrated Hisham Ibn 'Urwa from his father who said:
While I was a youngster, I asked 'Aisha (radiallaahu `anhaa) the wife of the Prophet (sallallaahu `alayhi wasallam). "What about the meaning of the Statement of Allah;
"Verily! (the mountains) As-Safa and Al Marwa, are among the symbols of Allah. So, it is not harmful if those who perform Hajj or 'Umra of the House (Ka'ba at Mecca) to perform the going (Tawaf) between them? (2.158) I understand (from that) that there is no harm if somebody does not perform the Tawaf between them." 'Aisha (radiallaahu `anhaa) replied, "No, for if it were as you are saying, then the recitation would have been like this: 'It is not harmful not to perform Tawaf between them.' This verse was revealed in connection with the Ansar who used to assume the Ihram for the idol Manat which was put beside a place called Qudaid and those people thought it not right to perform the Tawaf of As-Safa and Al-Marwa. When Islam came, they asked Allah's Apostle (sallallaahu `alayhi wasallam) about that, and Allah revealed:--
"Verily! (the mountains) As-Safa and Al-Marwa Are among the symbols of Allah. So, it is not harmful of those who perform Hajj or 'Umra of the House (Ka'ba at Mecca) to perform the going (Tawaf) between them." (2.158) Sufyan and Abu Muawiya added from Hisham (from 'Aisha (radiallaahu `anhaa)): "The Hajj or 'Umra of the person who does not perform the going (Tawaf) between As-Safa and Al-Marwa is incomplete in Allah's sight.

Today's Hadith:

Volume 3, Book 27, Number 19:
Narrated Isma'il:
Abdullah bin Abu Aufa (radiallaahu `anhu) said: "Allah's Apostle (sallallaahu `alayhi wasallam) performed 'Umra and we too performed 'Umra along with him. When he entered Mecca he performed the Tawaf (of Ka'ba) and we too performed it along with him, and then he came to the As-Safa and Al-Marwa (i.e. performed the Sai) and we also came to them along with him. We were shielding him from the people of Mecca lest they may hit him with an arrow." A friend of his asked him (i.e. 'Abdullah bin Aufa (radiallaahu `anhu)), "Did the Prophet (sallallaahu `alayhi wasallam) enter the Ka'ba (during that 'Umra)?" He replied in the negative. Then he said, "What did he (the Prophet (sallallaahu `alayhi wasallam)) say about Khadija (radiallaahu `anhaa)?" He (Abdullah bin Aufa (radiallaahu `anhu)) said, "(He said) 'Give Khadija (radiallaahu `anhaa) the good tidings that she will have a palace made of Qasab in Paradise and there will be neither noise nor any trouble in it."
I'll discuss only the last part of the Hadith, about Khadija (radiallaahu `anhaa). I don't know about you, but her mention always brings a smile on my face. What a lady! I wonder sometimes how can someone love another so selflessly..? How can someone devote their life, time, energies, wealth, everything to someone else and their mission? I know he was a Prophet and it was different with him. But what about before his prophet-hood? Khadija (radiallaahu `anhaa) didn't know he was going to be a Prophet later, and that's certainly not why she married him. She had married him for his noble character and honesty. And she had devoted everything to him after marriage. Not once do we get to know that she showed her superiority over him due to her wealth.
It's not like life was smooth for them. They suffered. She suffered.. because of him (apparently). A typical wife would fire taunts at the husband for the rest of her life if she had to go through any difficulty because of him. But Khadija (radiallaahu `anhaa) was not a typical wife at all! She was given glad tidings of a palace in Jannah for a reason, where there will be no noise or trouble. She was chosen to be among the best women of Jannah for a reason.
We all want to have the same destination, but we don't want to undertake the journey. How can this work?
There has been a post on the unconditional love of Khadija (radiallaahu `anhaa) before as well. Make sure to check it out!

Can a Woman Give Zakah to her Husband? (Hadith No. 1200)


Bismillah.
Volume 2, Book 24, Number 541:
Narrated Abu Said Al-Khudri (radiallaahu `anhu):
On 'Id ul Fitr or 'Id ul Adha Allah's Apostle (sallallaahu `alayhi wasallam) went out to the Musalla. After finishing the prayer, he delivered the sermon and ordered the people to give alms. He said, "O people! Give alms." Then he went towards the women and said. "O women! Give alms, for I have seen that the majority of the dwellers of Hell-Fire were you (women)." The women asked, "O Allah's Apostle (sallallaahu `alayhi wasallam)! What is the reason for it?" He replied, "O women! You curse frequently, and are ungrateful to your husbands. I have not seen anyone more deficient in intelligence and religion than you. O women, some of you can lead a cautious wise man astray." Then he left. And when he reached his house, Zainab (radiallaahu `anhaa), the wife of Ibn Masud (radiallaahu `anhu), came and asked permission to enter It was said, "O Allah's Apostle (sallallaahu `alayhi wasallam)! It is Zainab (radiallaahu `anhaa)." He asked, 'Which Zainab?" The reply was that she was the wife of Ibn Mas'ud (radiallaahu `anhu). He said, "Yes, allow her to enter." And she was admitted. Then she said, "O Prophet of Allah (sallallaahu `alayhi wasallam)! Today you ordered people to give alms and I had an ornament and intended to give it as alms, but Ibn Masud (radiallaahu `anhusaid that he and his children deserved it more than anybody else." The Prophet (sallallaahu `alayhi wasallam) replied, "Ibn Masud (radiallaahu `anhu) had spoken the truth. Your husband and your children had more right to it than anybody else."
The Standing Committee (10/62) was asked: 
Is it permissible for a woman to give the zakaah of her wealth to her husband if he is poor? 
They replied: it is permissible for a woman to give the zakaah of her wealth to her husband if he is poor so as to ward off his poverty, because of the general meaning of the verse in which Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning): 
“As-Sadaqaat (here it means Zakaah) are only for the Fuqaraa’ (poor), and Al-Masaakeen (the poor)”
[al-Tawbah 9:60] 
More details on the subject here.

Taken from: http://ilookilisten.wordpress.com/2012/11/30/can-a-woman-give-zakah-to-her-husband-hadith-no-1200/

Lurvvvv! (Hadith No. 1170)


Bismillah.
Narrated 'Aisha:
During his sickness, Allah's Apostle was asking repeatedly, "Where am I today? Where will I be tomorrow?" And I was waiting for the day of my turn (impatiently). Then, when my turn came, Allah took his soul away (in my lap) between my chest and arms and he was buried in my house.
Prophet (SAW) would take regular turns to be with his wives. Although he loved `A'ishah (RA) more than the others, he never treated the others unjustly. During the days of his fatal illness, he became really impatient to be with `A'ishah, so he would ask again and again: 'where am I today? Where will I be tomorrow?', indicating that he wanted to visit `A'ishah real soon.
And same was the case with `A'ishah (RA); she kept getting impatient as well. So in order to fulfill Prophet (SAW)'s wish, the wives mutually decided to let `A'ishah have their share of the days. When finally he came to be with `A'ishah (RA), it was there in her lap that his soul was taken away. And it was there in her house that his body was buried. Sallallahu `alaiyhi wasallam.
When you love someone, it's natural that you desire to see them and be with them as much as possible. And with a love so pure as this one (among spouses), it's just plain cute. <3
The last person Prophet (SAW) saw before his death was `A'ishah (RA). Aww! :)
One of the greatest aims of marriage according to the laws of Allaah is so that affection and compassion may prevail between the spouses. This is the foundation on which married life should be built. Allaah, may He be exalted, says:
 
“And among His Signs is this, that He created for you wives from among yourselves, that you may find repose in them, and He has put between you affection and mercy” [al-Room 30:21] 
Al-Haafiz Ibn Katheer (may Allaah have mercy on him) said:
Affection means love, and compassion means kindness. A man keeps a woman either because he loves her or her because he feels compassion towards her because he has children from her.
Ibn Katheer (may Allah have mercy on him) also said: 
There is no love between any two souls greater than that that exists between the spouses.
Tafseer Ibn Katheer, 3/525
Difference between love and 'madness' here.
Wassalam.

Man Edition: How to Win your Wife's Love???

In the name of Allah , the Entirely Merciful, the Especially Merciful.

In today's life of hustle and bustle, the family unit is becoming fragile by the day. Divorces are on the rise, and Muslims can no longer claim, as justifiably as before, that divorce is rare among Muslims or even much less than incidents of divorce among non-Muslims. The article, originally contributed by several bloggers and readers on MuslimMatters.org, is divided in two parts and will list out ways to keep up your spouse's love. Feel free to write to us your own list with experiences. Having said that, let's take on the men first, here's how you can keep up your wife's love:


1. Make her feel secure, don't threaten her with divorce.
2. Give sincere Salaams.
3. Treat her gently, like a fragile vessel.
4. Advise in private, at the best time, in the best way and atmosphere.
5. Be generous with her.
6. Warm the seat for her, you will warm her heart.
7. Avoid anger, be in Wudhu at all times.
8. Look good and smell great for your wife.
9. Don't be rigid or harsh-hearted or you will be broken.
10. Be a good listener.
11. Yes for flattery. No for arguing.
12. Call your wife with the best names, cute nicknames, and names she loves to hear.
13. A pleasant surprise.
14. Preserve and guard the tongue.
15. Expect, accept, and overlook her shortcomings.
16. Give sincere compliments.
17. Encourage her to keep good relations with her family.
18. Speak of the topic of her interest.
19. Express to her relatives, how wonderful she is.
20. Give each other gifts.
21. Get rid of routine, surprise her.
22. Have a good opinion of each other.
23. Have good manners, overlook small things, don't nitpick.
24. Add a drop of patience, increase during pregnancy, menses.
25. Expect and respect her jealously.
26. Be humble.
27. Sacrifice your happiness for hers.
28. Help at home, with housework.
29. Help her love your relatives, but do not try to force her.
30. Let her know that she is the ideal wife for you.
31. Remember your wife in Duâa.
32. Leave the past for Allah, do not dwell on, dig into, or bring it up.
33. Do not act as if you are doing her a favor by working or providing, Allah is the Provider, the husband is the carrier of the sustenance to the family.
34. Take Shaitan as your enemy, not your wife.
35. Put food in your wife's mouth.
36. Treat your wife like she is the most precious pearl that you want to protect.
37. Show her your smile.
38. Do not ignore the small things, deal with them before they be come big.
39. Avoid being harsh-hearted.
40. Respect and show that you appreciate her thinking.
41. Help her to find and build her inner strengths and skills.
42. Respect that she might not be in mood for intimacy, stay within Halaal boundaries.
43. Help her take care of the children.
44. Give her gifts with your tongue, be an artist with your compliments.
45. Sit down and eat meals together.
46. Let her know that you will be traveling or returning from travel, give her sufficient notice.
47. Don't leave home in anger.
48. Maintain the secrecy and privacy of the home.
49. Encourage each other in worship.
50. Respect and fulfill her rights upon you.
51. Live with her in kindness, goodness, fairness in good and bad times.
52. Kiss your wife, foreplay, don't jump on her like a bull.
53. Keep disputes between the two of you, don't take it outside.
54. Show care for her health and well-being.
55. Remember you are not always right or perfect yourself.
56. Share your happiness and sadness with her.
57. Have mercy for her weaknesses.
58. Be a firm support for her to lean on.
59. Accept her as is, she is a package deal.
60. Have a good intention for her.
61. Cook a dish for her.
62. Designate a nice, clean, spacious area in your home for the two of you to pray at night whenever you can.
63. Women love flowers. Make a trail of them on the floor leading to the gift you made for her.
64. Give her a nice massage when she least expects it.
65. Send your wife a text message out of the blue with a message of love.
66. Send your wife an email without a reason.
67. Go out on a date or a get-away for the weekend in a nice location, preferably without kids.
68. Do something for your wife's family, whether it is a gift, or a chat with her teen brother who needs mentoring, or whatever. It will get you lots of brownie points.
69. Do not keep reminding and demanding your rights all the time.
70. Shop groceries for her and call her from the store and ask her what she needs for the home, for herself or for her to give to people as gifts.
71. Ask her if she would like to invite her female friends over for ladies only get together and arrange for the dinner.
72. Ask her to send gifts to her parents and siblings.
73. Help her parents pay off debt. Send her poor relatives some money.
74. Write love notes or poems and place them in the book she's been reading.
75. If she tells you something she had just learned from the Qur'an or Hadith, do not dismiss her or ridicule her effort, instead listen to her and take her word.

76. Plant her a kitchen garden with all kind of herbs she needs for cooking.
78. Update her PC or laptop with a new one or get her a new mobile phone.
79. Learn to do a special massage technique and surprise her with your new expertise.
80. Teach your children to respect and honor their mother.
81. Be humorous with her when she makes a mistake in the kitchen (like when she put too much salt or burnt her baking). '“ 

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