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Sexual Harassment at public place & Islamic Solution and advices

QUESTION IN MY INBOX via Islamiliveforit blog by anonymous girl about the Man behaviour and public place

there's one thing i want to ask
it's about the behavior of some brothers in public places

i and my friends [girls] went for shopping one evening. we we're in the crowd when suddenly one of my friend was harrass by touching her body. when we look at the man, he continuously walk ahead without looking back as if he didn't do that. what can we do about it?
we're wearing proper hijab
i'm covering my face too

i'm wearing proper hijab and niqab. like i said i'm a foreigner in some muslim state.


if that happens again, what should she do? ishe mean what she gonna do right at that moment?
should she yell at him?
ishe m sorry but i could almost cry for such behavior
REPLY BY BR. Mohammad Usman Nisar :-
Islam had suggest solution to such problem as well

1/ Man who act like so maybe muslim or non muslim but lack proper manner and natural behaviour and tempted by satan

2/ Woman can doing following steps to avoid such events:
i) Proper Hijab and Niqab
ii) Walk at sides of road or so close that you touching the borders
iii) Woman may move around in market or etc areas with mahram member to avoid acts of evil or unmodest people.
iv) State should adopt measures as well

3/ Solution for man with weak faith and un modest
i) Tawheed
ii) Salah
iii) Remembering Allah much [zikr]
 REPLY BY BR. Mohammad Ali :- [detailed answer]
Asalam o alaikum wr.

Now that it has been elaborated, so its become clear and focus will be on the particular situation which is described. And masha Allah, i must say, u replied very well.
Well first of all we should know that Islam is such a great religion that it has given us guidelines of everything. Allah Almighty gave us some guidelines of going to public places. Which are:
1- Reading dua of leaving house. And reading dua of entering the market.
2- Making sure we are in proper hijab. Both men & women.
3- Females should not be going alone, even if together, even if in proper hijab. They should be accompanied by mehrams.
4- Lowering gaze and saying salam to each other and not sit on public places (markets) uselessly.
5- Females should try to walk on sides of road rather than in the middle.

Now the reasons for the unpleasant event with which the respected sisters got confronted, according to my naaqis soch (faulty thinking) are two:
1- They were confronted by a shaytan who had no sense of shame.
2- They did the mistake of going out to market alone without any mehram.

Believe it or not. When a mehram is with u, it lowers the morale of a shaytan to 80%. A shaytan who wants to see you or harass you will think 10 times if he sees some male with you. Male here doesn't mean a 10 year old kid. Male means a mature person who seems like a man. Sisters, trust me. U cannot go to some place and expect that the shaytans would not be there. U cannot go to some place and expect that angels would be walking there. Shaytans are everywhere. And human shaytan is more dangerous. Trust me. Because the jinn shaytan runs away when you read "Auz billahi min ash shaytan ir rajeem" or when it hears adhaan. But the human shaytan doesn't run whey u read auz billah or when it hears adhaan :p It does sins at the time of adhaan too or even if u read 100 times auz billah. So human shaytan is more dangerous and to be safe from this shaytan, sisters need to make sure they do something practical, rather than just dua, and that practical thing is to go out in the market or public places with some manly mehram. Only then this human shaytan would not confront you. And if it confronts u even when u are with mehram, then i am sure, any male, whether weak or strong, will have ghairah and will like to beat this shaytan who harrassed his women folk. This is the only practical solution i see right now.

As for the question "What should sister do now?" Then one thing is to tell her male mehram and tell him to find that shaytan and teach him a lesson :D Another thing is that she should do sabr and next time take extra care and go out with mehram.

As for the question "What should she do if next time this happens" Then as for yelling, if she yells, then the shaytan who did this would simply say that He touched by mistake and he would be baree (free) of this evil deed. And also it maybe that this was done mistakenly especially in a crowded area. So we got to see all possibilities. It maybe that the other person is a shareef maulvi like Mohammad Rana Usman Nisar and someone pushed him in a crowded area like daewoo bus station and he accidentally touches some female and that female slaps or yells and this poor person has to get beaten :P lol. So all possibilities should be taken into account. But i believe if this sister is with mehram, then the mehram would himself take care of it insha Allah and sister wont have to take much tention.

As for a very exceptional situation, that the sister has no mehram, what so ever, available and she wants to do some extra special work and needs to go to market with some female friends and in this situation she gets confronted with such an act (if she is sure that person did it intentionally and not mistakenly), then the solution according to my faulty thinking is tat she should report some elderly person near her and explain it to them.





STORY OF THE SAHABI WHO RAN AWAY TO MOUNTAINS

Thalaba Ibn Abdul Rahman was a young man at the age of 16. He always ran errands for the prophet pbuh. One day while walking though the city of Medina, he passed by a house with an open door. Out of curiosity he took a glance inside. In this glance, he saw a light curtain being blown away from a bathroom entrance where a woman was bathing. He immediately lowered his gaze. With an extreme feeling of guilt and hypocrisy his mind ran. Thinking to himself, How could I be of the companions, one that is close to the prophet pbuh, one who runs his errands and be so horrible as to disrespect peoples privacy??

He feared that Allah would reveal to the prophet pbuh evidence of his hypocrisy. His guilt denied him to ever show his face to the prophet pbuh. So he ran away. Days went by and the prophet kept asking the other companions if they had seen Thalaba. No one had seen him. With the prophet's worry about Thalaba he sent a few of the companions to look for him everywhere, among them were Omar Ibn Al Khattab and Salman Al Farisiy. They looked everywhere in Medina, and on the out skirts of Madina, until they came about a set of mountains between Mecca and Medina where some nomads were herding sheep. The companions asked the nomads if they had seen a young man with Thalaba's characteristics. They told the companions about a weeping boy. He had been here for 40 days. He came down from the mountains once a day weeping and drank the milk they would offer him. Then he went back up the mountains weeping, crying, always asking for Allah for forgiveness, and saying words of repentance. So the companions waited until he came down and watched him. He had lost weight. His countenance reflected sorrow as he drank the milk that was mixed with his tears.

The companions insisted that they take him back to the prophet pbuh but he refused and asked them if Allah had revealed verses saying he was a hypocrite. They told him that they had no knowledge of any such verses. He was taken back to Medina where the prophet pbuh went to see him. He asked again if Allah had put him among the hypocrites or revealed that he was. The prophet pbuh assured him that there were no such verses. He laid out Thalaba's tired, weak body and placed Thalaba's head on his lap. He said, "Oh prophet of Allah remove the head of a sinner away from you." The prophet pbuh comforted him until he told the prophet pbuh I feel as though ants are walking between my flesh and bones. The prophet told him it was death and his time had come. He witnessed while Thalaba's head was on his lap, Thalaba proclaimed. "There is no god worthy of worship other than Allah, and that Mohammad pbuh is the messenger of Allah." The prophet pbuh washed Thalaba and carried him to the grave. It is narrated that on their way to bury Thalaba, the prophet pbuh walked on his tippy toes as though he were in a crowd. When Umar asked about this, the prophet pbuh explained that he was being crowded with the angels."

THE EFFECT THAT A BEAUTIFUL QIRAT AND UNDERSTANDING OF QURAN CAN HAVE ON YOU


Asalam o alaikum. Today i was praying Isha in my mosque behind my imam sb and something great happened which i will like to share with all. My Imam Sb. recites quran in 3-4 styles and he has a very good voice masha Allah, however one of his style is amazing and it is so heart touching that it makes people cry always.

I never cried in any prayer, because of a hard heart (may Allah soften my heart. aameen). I do not remember that i ever cried in my life on anything except 1 time on an Islamic lecture. But today i was amazed how i cried. During Isha prayer my imam sb started reciting the verses of Surah Noor. And the more he advanced, the more i went deep into the meaning and tune of what he was reciting and then this ayah came:

"Allah is the Light of the heavens and the earth. The parable of His Light is as (if there were) a niche and within it a lamp, the lamp is in glass, the glass as it were a brilliant star, lit from a blessed tree, an olive, neither of the east nor of the west, whose oil would almost glow forth (of itself), though no fire touched it. Light upon Light! Allah guides to His Light whom He wills. And Allah sets forth parables for mankind, and Allah is All-Knower of everything." (24:35)

I could understand every word of this ayah, and the way imam sb was reciting this was amazing. All of a sudden it made me realize that infront of WHOM am i standing. ALLAH HU AKBAR!! What a feeling it was. I could feel the hair on my hands and feet stand up. All of a sudden i remembered all my sins and then the AWE of this feeling that infront of Whom am i standing, it just made me cry. I couldn't hold on. What a prayer this was. I pray to Allah to make my every prayer like this. A prayer which makes me realize in Whose presence am i standing and a prayer which makes me remind all my sins and an eagerness to ask forgiveness for them crying in the sajdah. Ya Allah grant me such a khushu in every prayer. I am very thankful to my imam sb for the beautiful qirat and thankful to Allah Almighty that He gave me the taufeeq to understand Quran. I request all my brothers & sisters who have not read quran with understanding to hasten and understand it if they want to have wonderful effects like that. May Allah give all of us the taufeeq. aameen.

BY
Mohamamd Ali

True love :p

Small review by Br. Mohammad Ali

Wonderful article. Especially:
"a lot of youth fail to realize that in reality there is no such thing as “true” love before marriage, yes, there might be crushes, infatuations and the likes, but true love? No.

Some people might argue and say, how can you make such a bold statement? To that I reply, love is what creates happiness not sorrow, love is what gives you a peace of mind not worry and anguish but most importantly, love is that which brings you closer to Allaah the Most High, not that which will push you further away from Him and acquire His wrath."

"ARTICLE- TRUE LOVE" 


In today’s world, a lot of young people are afflicted by a serious illness that is even more deadly than any virus or bacteria. It is an illness that affects the heart and will cause its death, if not treated.

This illness is none other than love before marriage, and it is with great sadness that a lot of youth fail to realize that in reality there is no such thing as “true” love before marriage, yes, there might be crushes, infatuations and the likes, but true love? No.

Some people might argue and say, how can you make such a bold statement? To that I reply, love is what creates happiness not sorrow, love is what gives you a peace of mind not worry and anguish but most importantly, love is that which brings you closer to Allaah the Most High, not that which will push you further away from Him and acquire His wrath.

Yet there are a few brothers and sisters, who truly love Allaah, only to find their hearts crippled by this disease, they have apparently fallen in “love” with the opposite gender (before marriage) and can’t seem to stop thinking about them, they lose their appetite, their sleep and become neglectful of life as a whole.

These individuals sometimes regret falling in love and want a way out, they want a cure for this illness, but is there really a cure?

Listen to what Imaam Ibn al-Qayyim has to say:

“And the cure for this deadly illness (i.e. love before marriage) is for the person that is afflicted to realize that this love is only due to his/her own delusions and ignorance.

So upon such a person is to first and foremost strengthen their Tawheed and reliance upon Allaah, and secondly to increase in worship and busy themselves with it, so much so that they do not have any spare time letting their minds wander and think about their beloved.

And they should call upon Allaah to protect them and save them from this evil, just as Prophet Yusuf called upon Allaah and he was saved. And they should do as he did, be as he was, in terms of ikhlaas (sincerity) and remembering Allaah in abundance.

This is because if the heart is filled with ikhlaas for the sake of Allaah, there will be no space left for any unlawful love to be present, rather this only happens to a heart that is empty and has no ikhlaas whatsoever.

And let such people remind themselves that whatever Allaah has decreed for them is only in their own best interests, and when Allaah commands something it is never to cause harm or misery to His slaves.

And let them also remind themselves that their unlawful love does not benefit them, neither in this world or the hereafter! As for this world then they will be so preoccupied with their love that it will cripple them and will cause them to live in a fantasy world. And as for the hereafter then it will cause them to be preoccupied with the love of the creation instead of love for the Creator!

These people need to be reminded, that the one who is emerged in something will never see its ill effects, neither will the person who has never experienced such things. The only people who will be able to relate to them are those who have experienced the same thing but have been saved. Such people can look back and realize how evil it is.”

[ad-Daa' wa ad-Dawaa p. 300]

DID WE FORGET OUR OWNSELVES?


To a great extent, Television tells us who we are and who we should be. It tells us that the most important thing about us is how we look. The first thing the media do is surround us with the image of ideal male/female beauty so we all learn how important it is for us to be beautiful and exactly what it takes. We are being injected that the only thing which matters is outside appearance.

We are being bombarded with all sorts of materialistic philosophies that human being is just matter and four dimensional creature and atoms bonded together and a higher animal and it sleeps and drinks and eats and walks and talks and 'survival of the fittest' theories and blah blah blah. But hold on!! Hold on! I am not just a stone! I am not just atoms of matter bonded together! I am more than that.I feel pain. Dont you? Not physical pain. But emotional pain. And i know many of us are in pain these days. I feel joy. Dont you? Is that four dimensional? And then I go near nature out of this metropolis, I feel happy. Is that physical? Then how dare they impose ideologies on us solely based on materialism! They tell us about mechanics of walking, dressing and eating and drinking. But do they ever tell us who we really are and what we really need??
This materialistic society is like a mechanical labyrinth. Built as a prison. Where the bars are invisible. It exploits our insecurities. It enriches itself on ignorance. It suppresses our ambitions. We need to think. Have our goals been diverted? From achieving the infinite to supplicating for the temporary? Have we lost sense of ourselves? Is the thing we are chasing real or illusion? Have we been deceived? Have we begun to believe their lies? Have we accepted their definition of success, happiness and truth? 

We get everything. Yet feel like missing something. Always in a state of extreme un satisfaction. "Why am i not like them? Why do i not have what they have?"Comes then the extreme passion to start becoming like them. We work tirelessly day and night. All for the purpose of becoming like what we see. But... Let us pause.. Let us think..Did we leave our SELF behind during all this race? Did we forget who we really are and from where we came? Did we forget what our true nourishment is? Did we forget what truly we need to be successful?Lets ask ourselves the above questions and think, are we among those mentioned in the following ayah? 
"And be not like those who forgot Allah and He caused them to forget their ownselves." (59:19)

Halal Earning from desktop

There are alot of online skill bazaars where anyone can bid on projects on the level of skills he/she has. Either technical or non-technical.

I call it Freelance Media.

I would like to request all those who r in search of any "Rizq-e-Halal" to give it a full effort.
I can provide help as much as I can. The most famous of all these sites are as under :

http://www.whichlance.com/​directory
http://www.peopleperhour.com/
http://www.freelance.com/en/
https://www.elance.com/​skills_directory
http://guru.com/
http://www.vworker.com/
http://www.freelancer.com/

This is also a good replacement for our sisters who want to earn while not compromising their purdah.

by Br. Ahmed Mansoor
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